Exactly what is “living authentic”? For me and my life, its staying true to my beliefs, goals, dreams and who I truly am at my core. With society’s standards and stigmas, it may be hard at times to be true to oneself and accomplish all that needs to be done. We are compelled to give in to others wants and put ours on the back burner. Living one’s true self starts with being yourself without fear of judgment of others and if they do judge you, WHO CARES. As a society, we are trained to judge. Is that right? Definitely not! Whether its the color of your skin, your job, your hair, your clothes or even what’s on your skin, society looks at the outer you before they even know the inner you. Those that are open and also live authentic will look past that to see what is deeper beneath what the eyes see, and we need more people to do this in order to break social boundaries.
When I meet a new person, I am more inclined to “judge” off their energy rather than the way they look. Who cares about the designer of their handbag or shoes. Do they give off a light or energy of positivity, creativity and acceptance. Does their smile or laugh make you want to smile and laugh as well? Do their ideas inspire you to focus on your own goals and ideas? We all give off an energy all the time. On good days we are AWESOME and everyone wants to be around us. On bad days, we want to be alone and sulk in our misery. Our emotional ups and downs are necessary to balance out our lives.
Living authentic also involves being self aware. When I say that, I mean aware of who you truly are. The good, the bad and the ugly. Our flaws and imperfections make us who we are. There are things in our personality that may not be that nice but it’s up to us to recognize and change what we don’t like about ourselves. Be aware of your strengths and work on those weaknesses. We are ever evolving beings that should adjust to the changing times and want to always change for the betterment of our true selves. Being honest with ourselves in that we are NOT perfect and can always be better people is the best philosophy. When I or my husband notice a negative trait coming out, I take the time to evaluate where that is coming from and work to not have that permanent characteristic stay with me long term. Again, we all have ups and downs.
Back to living authentic. All that I’ve said relates back to this. If you are truly authentic to yourself, it doesn’t matter what anyone else sees or thinks. Your own opinion of yourself is the most important. Be who you truly are and want to be and it will be easy. It may not be simple for you to have acceptance from everyone but it will be easy to not give a fuck.
We should revel in the differences of others. Without these differences, the world would be a boring and bland place.